• Neil Mahoney

Managing The Responsibility Of Caregiver For Parents Of Children With Special Needs

As parents, we always want the best for our children and will do whatever it takes to provide that to them. This may be even more true when it comes to parents of children with special needs.

Because special needs children require more help, attention, and care, it is important that the parents manage their caregiving responsibilities in a healthy, balanced way.

In this article, we share several tips on how best to manage the responsibility of a caregiver for parents of children with special needs.

Mental & Emotional Health

It is the most rewarding gift to be able to help your child in ways that they cannot help themselves. In addition, seeing your special needs child blossom and excel in ways that you did not imagine possible, is a true blessing.

However, the responsibility that parents have in being the caregiver for their special needs child is not an easy burden to bear.

Because of that, it is important that parents routinely take a baseline for their own mental & emotional health. What we are recommending is that you simply make sure that you are taking care of yourself as well. Too often, parents are so focused on their children (rightly so), that they forget to make sure that they are in good mental & emotional health.

This does not have to mean going to therapy (while it could). However, it may instead involve your family members, friends, and other community members holding you accountable to a routine check-in. In addition, being okay with asking for help is something that can really improve your mental & emotional health as you give care to your special needs child.

By strengthening your mental & emotional health, you will show up as an even better caregiver, parent, and friend.


Routine is critical for your child and it also helps you as the caregiver. By being on a consistent schedule, your special needs child will know what to expect. When they know what to expect, they will feel more secure.

Routine will help, but we all know that there will be those days that just don’t go as planned. That is okay and we have to give ourselves and our children grace in those moments.

However, the routine must be thought of as a long-term play. The routine will help you as the parent in a lot of ways. Most importantly is that it will allow you to make decisions less, so that you can focus more of your attention on your special needs child.


With work, other day-to-day responsibilities, and being a caregiver to your child, it may seem far fetched to have any time to yourself. It also may be out of reach to consider going on a vacation or family trip.

However, taking a vacation could be something that is critical for your mental health as a caregiver. In addition, you may be surprised how important it could be for your special needs child and family as a whole.

Even though routines are important (as we noted above), it is also life-giving to get out of your normal day-to-day life and experience something new. This doesn’t have to be an expensive or even long vacation.

I am sure that going on vacation with a special needs child may not be easy. There will be a lot of extra planning and considerations that must be done. Don’t let that stop you from going on vacation. You may be surprised at how it helps your role as caregiver to your child.

Avoiding Burnout

It is not realistic at all that you would ever give up on being the caregiver for your child. You love them so much that you would do anything for them.

Yet, it is still true that your rewarding burden is not easy. Because of that and because we know that there are (and will be) tough days, you want to do everything in your power to avoid burnout.

What this means is to take some of our tips above to heart and try to implement them. By taking care of your mental & emotional health, you will be able to show up as a better caregiver to your child. By sticking to a routine, you will make your child feel more secure and make your life easier. Finally, by doing the hard-work to go on a vacation, you will feel revitalized for the rewarding gift that you get to give every single day to your child.

We’re Here to Help

At ABW Wealth Advisors, we believe that wise stewardship of money leads to a better quality of life for your family. We want to improve your life by managing your finances related to your families’ goals and needs. We help special needs families and the wider disability community prosper.

If you’d like to know more about our services and how we can help you and your family deal with the challenges of having a disability, schedule a “Break the Ice Introductory Call”.

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